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The wobble

Hello lovely people,

Every now and then, everyone has a wobble…even me!

The past week has been a great deal of contemplation and reflection. Sometimes, we find ourselves so stuck in the actual work that we forget ourselves in the process. I’ve been taking a bit of time out to just reflect and think about where I want this to go. I think the reason I wanted to write about it was that I spend a lot of time advising people to ensure that they are making time for themselves. Imagine the rude awakening I had when my dearest friend pointed out the same to me. Thanks Irfan!

It is a really interesting dynamic how our work defines us as people, especially in my line of work. It is sometimes blurry where the lines of separation are. As people, our day jobs are a massive part of our lives. This week I have met people who are solely defined by their work. You notice the patterns of speech and the metaphors they use that come from their sphere of work. I’ve also met people who make a clear and distinct boundary between work and their out of work persona. Having worked in a local authority for 12 years, I have always found this interesting.

However much we try and separate, when you take it down to the nuts and bolts of it, we are whole beings and work is part of that whole. Whether we like it or not, it filters through in to our personalities. There are those people that talk solely of work and nothing else. There isn’t anything wrong in that. It is their entire world. I’m probably one of them. It does sometimes make me feel like I am missing out on the person underneath that. I kinda felt I was missing out on myself.

I can liken this to an illness in the same way. I suppose the only way that I can describe it is as a form of attachment. It provides us with a sense of identity. I have learnt this week that I am more than just identity! Finding balance in your world is a difficult thing. For me, I love to work. I am as laid back as anything, but my work is my absolute joy. I am finding ways now to find space in that for me as a person. I’m beginning to be off duty with my friends and family and really explore who I am other than the healer and teacher.

I guess the moral of today’s little message is to just take a look at how much you are defined by what you do and how much space do you allow for yourself. For me, there is a lesson here. I am better at what I do when I am looking after myself which is something that is a high priority for me. This means my clients get the best me possible! The nicest thing is being able to bring who I am to the work. My sessions deal with heavy issues, but I like to keep it light. As a healer, being able to make someone laugh is the best release and I have had some proper giggles with clients this week!

So now that “me time” is scheduled in the diary, and I’ve spent some time getting organised, I want to let you know that the healing meditation group is now up and running. Sundays at 6pm and Wednesdays at 7pm. I plan on doing some spiritual development as part of the sessions so they will be varied.

Until next time…

Love and Light,

H x

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A beautiful moment…

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As you know I’ve been teaching Reiki for about a year now, in fact I was teaching two very different and unique level one students last week and so I thought I’d write about the experience. With this post, my aim is to capture Reiki at its best, and inspire you to want to know more!

If you’re thinking of learning Reiki, I can’t stress how important it is for you to choose your teacher well. Remember, we take responsibility for our own learning, and so it is important to choose a teacher that you connect with.  That’s my first bit of advice to you. Whenever someone expresses an interest in learning, I offer to have a conversation with them either on the phone or in person as it’s important that we connect. Everyone is right for Reiki level one, but I may or may not be the right teacher for you so talk to other teachers and find one you connect with.

So my students last week both came to me as clients in the first instance.  They came for a healing session with me, and I was humbled that they chose me to teach them. They had not met each other before, but they were brilliant learning with each other. One was quite shy and reserved, the other mildly sceptical with an open mind. This just goes to show that Reiki really is for everyone! They gave each other so much help and support, really learned from me and from each other and I could see a deep respect in the way they were towards each other. Both had natural ability and were gifted in their own individual ways, and I can’t wait to see where their journeys take them!

When I teach, I teach at home as Mikao Usui would have done. Usui is the founder of the Reiki system of healing. There are many different types of Reiki, but they stem from this system and philosophy. For two days, my home is your home and you are welcome. I find that this creates an environment conducive to learning. My students feel at ease as they are welcome, and genuinely welcome with an open heart. For me, it is also part of showing trust and respect to my students. As a teacher, I think this is an important part of who I am and I love to give in this way. Teaching, for me, is just as much about learning myself and with each course I teach, I affirm more and more my own philosophy on life. In “A Course in Miracles” the teachers manual says that we teach what we believe to be true, and teaching helps us to learn and affirm what we believe to be true. This resonates with me very deeply. What I teach, effectively, is who I am and I have a lot of gratitude for this as it is a blessing indeed.

On the Reiki level one course, we learn about the history and origins of Reiki, we learn the Reiki principles and the philosophy behind the approach, and I attune you to Reiki energy. The attunement is an important part of the course as it deepens your connection to the life force energy. There are three attunements on the level one course, and each one feels progressively more intense as you deepen your connection and develop. We also learn about self-healing and developing ourselves. Another  important part of the course is the daily Reiki meditation. Learning to meditate and heal yourself is an important practice in becoming the best version of you possible.

For me, the most beautiful moments in the course are when my students feel the energy for the first time. It doesn’t matter how many times I teach, the first reaction is always unique and individual but there’s always that spark of “wow!” It’s where two worlds meet and the look of wonder and amazement is priceless. In that moment, there’s also something else. It’s almost like a beam of light from within the student that radiates across their whole being. It’s magical, and it opens the way for more magic. In that moment, everything seems possible and that’s what we are in effect teaching.

Students also get the opportunity to give and receive Reiki healing and it is an important part of the course so that students can experience this first hand and put what they are feeling in to practice. I train intuitive Reiki practitioners. As I watch my students working, it is an amazing thing to see someone in the moment they begin to trust themselves and what they are feeling. In giving Reiki, I ask students to feel and respond to the energy using their own intuition and as they learn to do this in the healing room, I realise that this is a metaphor for what happens in their lives as a result of Reiki. Reiki really does change your life and it is a beautiful thing to watch someone grow in this way. This is why I do what I do!

Curious and want to know more? I am holding a Reiki share on Sunday 25th October (11am – 2pm) at Castle View, so if you’d like to find out more, you are more than welcome. If after reading this, you think I might be the right teacher for you, I would love to hear from you.

Anything is possible…you have to believe in the magic for it to work…..

Love & Light,

H

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I’ve fallen out with an old friend…

Hello everyone,

Today, a story about how I’ve fallen out with an old friend. Procrastination has been a very good friend of mine for a long time, and he isn’t happy at the moment because we are really starting to fall out. Good old procrastination has comforted me and my ego for a long time, but now I can see him for what he really is, I’m wanting to say goodbye. It’s difficult letting go of an old friend, but something that need’s to go for me to continue on the journey.

I can’t remember when we met, but I my memories of Procrastination go back a long way. He was the voice that said, “It’ll be ok” and “in your own time” and “you don’t want to put that pressure on yourself.” He gave me a great deal of comfort, almost wrapped me up to the point of suffocation, and didn’t want me to leave the lovely comfort zone he had helped me to create. I thought he was helping me. I thought he was making it less painful, almost easier to take baby steps towards facing the truths that I was avoiding.

Me and Procrastination took a bit of a break from each other at that point. It was time on my own that made me realise who my true friends were, and Procrastination wasn’t one of them. Indeed, it was Procrastination that stopped me from having the time alone in the first place. He was keen that I stay put exactly where I was. He was keen that nothing changed as it kept him in a job. I fought, and I went away for a while. In that space, I awoke to a realisation and I found a new friend. My new friend was called Awareness, and she helped me to see what Procrastination was doing to limit my life choices.

So as I sat with Awareness, she began to show me images of myself. I saw everything that I could be, I saw all my potential. With Awareness holding my hand, I could observe without getting drawn in to the thoughts. It suddenly dawned on me that Procrastination was soothing me, helping me to avoid the things I needed to face. It was Awareness that showed me that I needed a way of healing myself, and the journey began with taking her hand.

After I fell out with Procrastination, things weren’t the same. My days became fuller and more meaningful. My words became more direct and meaningful. The empty space Procrastination left filled up quickly with the rich warmth of achievement. This felt like a nicer blanket to be enveloped in. In the beginning it was exhausting, and I could hear Procrastination saying, “you’re doing well, that’s great, but take a break!” but I know if I listened I would go backwards, so I stuck with it. I sat with Awareness when I felt exhausted, and she showed me the different between real rest (another good friend) and Procrastination.

So now I’ve learnt to observe who my real friends are, I am fired up and ready to go. I went for a long time without any healing for myself simply because Procrastination made me put it off. I was lucky enough to find a great healer who helped me to see my choices from a different perspective, and that was all that I needed. I did the rest of the work myself. In my healing sessions, this is what I aim to do. I show you another way of looking, and you instinctively will make the shift on your own. Don’t get me wrong, Procrastination will still come back to visit. I’ve learnt how to tell him he’s outstayed his welcome, and so he has very little else he can do, apart from leave.

Is it your time to stop Procrastination from holding you back? Are you ready to fly? If you’re ready for change, I’m more than ready to work with you so let’s get you to the best version of you possible. Healing sessions can really help you to understand where things need to change to get the shift you need. Not only do we clear away the residue of old emotion, we recharge and refresh you with the energy you need to move forward. We begin to shift all your old patterns and you set yourself new ones that serve you much better.

Give yourself a boost and book in today!!

Love and Light,

H

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A day in the life of the self-employed….

So…as I sit here in Costa Beaumont Leys at 1.30pm on a Saturday afternoon, I thought I’d write a blog just to reassure you all that being self-employed isn’t all about lounging in your PJ’s and drinking coffee. Although, drinking good coffee does help!

You never quite know what something’s going to feel like until you’re actually doing it. In my head, I imagined self-employed life very differently. Two weeks in, and I can see that this is a whole different ball game to what I was used to at the council. It’s safe to say that my comfort zone is being stretched all the time! I imagined that I would wake up at 7am, stroll down to the pool and take a swim, work on a few clients, have a spot of lunch…erm…turns out it really isn’t as relaxed as that!

I sort of anticipated that I would feel a little lost, so I deliberately made sure that my first week was a full week and I was busying myself. The idea was that I’d have adapted to a new way of being before I caught myself missing the 9 – 5. That’s kind of happened, but week two has been an eye-opener. The adrenalin fuelled life shows no sign of letting up…!

Don’t be fooled…there hasn’t been much time to relax! Don’t get me wrong, I’m absolutely loving it, but I think I’m going to have to build my stamina! Freedom can be overwhelming, and I don’t think I realised just how much I was taking on. If anything, it has shown me how much I am capable of taking on and there’s so much more! I think for the most part, I made this big step smaller to be able to process it and feel comfortable with it. I now realise not only how big the step was, but how big I have become to be able to take this in my stride makes me feel a sense of real achievement.

Nothing arrives until you’re ready for it. Had this happened a year ago, I’d have crumbled under the pressure. I’m adapting, slowly but surely. I’m very fortunate to have a strong foundation in my friends and family and that really helps. I think the other big realisation is being able to give myself credit for what I’ve done. I didn’t really get it before, but confidence is a massive factor in making something work and that doesn’t come overnight.

Each time I help a client to develop their confidence, there’s a part of me that grows with them, and perhaps they don’t realise that. People who have “got it together” are still working on “getting it together.”

I think the biggest and nicest realisation is that I understand the meaning of working hard, playing harder. Life feels much more free and easy and my focus is very much on this. I’m blessed and fortunate to be able to say that I am living my dream, and that dream requires me to live very much in the moment. They say everything in your life leads you up to the moment you are in, and when I reflect on some of the darker moments, I can totally understand and let go of those moments because without them I wouldn’t be here. Without them, I wouldn’t be able to reach as many people as I do. Without them, I wouldn’t be making the impact I am making. Without them, I wouldn’t be able to acknowledge the impact and have the self-assurance that I need to make this work.

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve really started to understand the impact of what I do. I can see the transformation in my clients and it’s helped me to really get under the bonnet of my work. For me, that’s the mission. Reach and help, and that comes from a place of love. I do my work because of this feeling of free that I have, and it makes me a different kind of happy. I’ve found the happy that people search for, and it means that I can show people where to look when they’re ready to find the same.

So my new strapline is…if you’re ready for change, I’m ready to help!!! And that really does come from a place of love. This stuff doesn’t work without sincerety.

Feel free to comment below and share your thoughts…

Love and light,

H