Heartache is something that we will all face at some point in our lives. I’m no stranger to this. It’s not just heartache, but it’s also heart break and it brings with it a deep emotional pain that just needs some form of healing or release.
This tearing apart serves a purpose. The harsher it feels, the deeper it’s opening you up to a way of seeing the world in a unique way. If you think about it, it’s the wounds and the pain that we have experienced that shape who we are as human beings. When we know what that feels like, heartache teaches us compassion and a sense of humanity. Heartache makes us want to reach out and help.
Heartache can also make us shut down though. Emotions are such and they can be unpredictable. What grows one person may totally shut down another. We all come with our own unique set of experiences and circumstances. We all have our own set periods of time before we can begin to go in to the heartache deeper and take the richness that it offers us.
Many of us feel a desperate need to fix this feeling of heartache and make it go away. More often than not because it hurts in a way that feels deeply uncomfortable. However, there is something very beautiful and courageous to being open to having your heart broken. It’s an unspoken rebellious streak that dares life to open you up.
Heartache isn’t necessarily a bad thing because it shows us that our hearts are awake and alive. I’d rather this than the alternative. Even a heart that feels shut down will feel pain and sadness. With this stirring comes a yearning to make things better and that is what’s known as hope. It’s as if a part of us already knows that there is something greater that lies beneath those feelings and the pain is a way of reaching out to Divine Source for help.
We are learning to grow and nurture our hearts. As much as we age and mature, there is something that remains very childlike about our hearts and so there is a need to grow and nurture this. That bewilderment that the heart experiences is a type of innocence that sits within us all. It’s the heart that falls in love and drives the madness within us all. There’s something very special about this feeling. We fall in love, experience heartache but we know that it isn’t impossible for us to fall in love all over again. We know that this can happen as much as we tell ourselves we won’t allow it. This is one of the reasons that we try and protect ourselves.
On a personal level, one of the realisations for me on this spiritual journey is that I do not need to protect my heart because it is already looked after by Divine Source. As many times as it has broken, it has opened up. The heart has an immense capacity to love and be loved and perhaps we underestimate this ability within ourselves.
Even though at times it feels overbearing, there is something fascinating about this wild, raw and untamed being that sits within us. The way that it roars when it is wounded. The way that it cares for others that are hurting. The nature of your heart and the nature of heartache are things that are worth knowing in order to appreciate the richness of being.
It always amazes me just how special and considered this aspect of a human being is and this leads me to believe that we are all seen and recognised by Divine Source. Imagine this Divine Source, the heart of hearts and soul of souls, the essence of every thing – imagine this Creator took time to fashion your heart, your heartaches, your heartbreaks and your journey just for you to come to know and see Him. Each experience of sadness calls you to the One because in that heartache and heart break is a whisper that beckons you back home and back in to your own connection.
Until next time,
Love Hafsa xx