Hello my lovelies,
I thought I’d write a quick blog as I have lots of messages in the last couple of weeks from people feeling down. The moon has been doing some crazy things and it affects our moods as the universe around us swings around. Believe it or not, we are all sensitive to the energies. Today in particular feels like a low day for a lot of people, myself included so I thought I would write something that would help me, and hopefully help you.
First of all, I need to say that we all feel the effects, myself included. There’s so many websites out there that give you information on what the moon is doing and how it affects your energy. If you’re having a low day, always worth checking what the moon is doing especially if you are a sensitive person like me. It isn’t just spiritually minded people that are affected.
Sometimes it is really hard to make yourself feel happy, especially when you can’t really explain why you feel down. Having suffered from depression and anxiety my whole life, the last thing you want to hear is do something to make you feel happy. I’ve been there and I know it doesn’t help. There’s just something in your brain that doesn’t register.
The one thing that helps me, that might help you, is to just pick one thing to do and do it. Having had days where I’ve had people scrape me off the floor, it isn’t a good feeling when you can’t even manage the small things. For me, even if its get myself out of the house that’s what I do. I keep a list of small, manageable things to choose from. Even now when I feel ok most of the time, I still keep that list because although I am so grateful for being stable, I know it can slip anytime. My list helps me to stay in control if it does happen.
And that brings me nicely to my next thing. Gratitude. I remember when I was really down and people would say there are people worse off than me. I’d think about them and it would really upset me and I would feel guilty and then get stuck again. It is a fair point though. Gratitude really helps and I like to write lists for however long it takes of all the things I’m grateful for. Thinking about all of these things makes me feel better.
Then there is good old mindfulness which is really helpful for when you have to really break it down. A good friend of mine called this morning and when we were talking about how crap we both feel today, he said one day at a time. That’s so right. Sometimes a day is a long time though. I have a post it note that reminds me that right here, right now – everything is perfectly fine. A day at a time is good, a moment at a time is sometimes the only way you can manage.
Grounding, grounding, grounding!! With anxiety and depression, energy is focussed around the brain. Our core and our centre of physical and emotional balance is in our belly and so grounding helps to draw the energy downwards to create mental, emotional and physical balance. Other things you can do to ground are walking in nature, focussing on your breathing and visualisations also really help.
The other thing my friend said that helps is that it will pass. It never feels like it will, but it will. I don’t have those dark days anymore, but I remember that feeling of doom. When will I ever be free of this? Everything is temporary. Even thoughts, even they come and go.
Truth be told, when it’s noisy in your head or its bubbly in your belly, just do something. Get out and about, call a friend, google grounding. Sometimes just some action helps.
I’d like to finish with one of my favourites from Rumi. This is an awesome poem that shows us human emotion and teaches acceptance and gratitude of this being human. I love this as it always reminds me that every day is different and it shows me that if I am feeling things, I am growing and learning. The most important is that I recognise my emotions and I own them. By doing so, I remain in my authentic truth and I am who I am whatever I happen to be feeling. Enjoy!
This being human is a guest house
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.